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Blair Nash Presents ‘Single of the Week’ Comes to CulSire!

  • By AnjieBlack
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  • June 20, 2014
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Blair Nash Presents Single of the Week is coming to CulSire!

I had the wonderful experience of befriending Blair on Facebook a few years ago. His posts on life, love and relationships were always refreshing and never came off “preachy”, which I like.  I got a chance to listen and be a guest on his radio show.  Everything about this brother is genuine and authentic.  Then the topping on the cake (ladies).. he’s FINE.

Let me tell you a little about Blair Nash and why we here at CulSire are thrilled aboutblair nash presents single of the week our new partnership with this amazing man.  This self-proclaimed Relationship Enthusiast, hosts a series of relationship forums around Columbus, OH and surrounding areas.  These forums focuses on dating, single living, relationships and living an overall full life.  He has a huge following on social media but don’t try to send him a friend request on Facebook because he’s maxed out on friends.  About 2 years ago he began a series called “Single of the Week”, where he spotlights African American men who are career-minded, single/unattached Bachelors throughout the country.  The purpose is to show the world that sharp, handsome, successful, SINGLE black men do exist.   He later included women to the series.  You can tell he genuinely cares about his people and the rebuilding and restoration of black love and the black family unit.

Lucky for me, I got to do this interview of Mr. Nash.

How long have you’ve been doing Single of the Week?  

I began SOTW back in May 2012.  It started as a platform for single men/women to connect from around the country – or perhaps only 10 or 20 miles away.

You’re a relationship enthusiast….what makes you so enthused about relationships?

I’ve always been a “go-to-guy” of sorts for women looking for answers…or simply a sympathetic ear as it pertains to dating scenarios.  So really:  I’ve just taken what I’ve always done and allowed it to be on a much larger platform.  Guys & gals would be AMAZED at what they could learn from one another if they’d stop deflecting, finger pointing, and treating opposite sex encounters as though the person is an adversary.

I understand that you are single and I’m sure people want to know why a Relationship Enthusiast is single.

That’s a very good question! [For the record – I am seeing someone at the moment.]  What is my main focus?  To motivate & educate.  Sadly we get so entrapped with details of “if” a person walks the walk….we miss the core of a message.  It’s really a deflection tactic – often used by individuals to escape responsibility of doing what they ought to.

You’ll find flaws and imperfections in just about anyone, up to & including those married who are sought out for guidance and tips on what works. My parents have been married 34 years. I gain insight often from them and the numerous couples I’ve counseled over the years.

What are some of your top tips for dating? 

Hmmm.  Another interesting question!  For starters, I would say:  your beliefs don’t mean much if it’s not somehow reflected in your current behavior.  To think a person can flip a switch, and seamlessly morph from being a “ho” to a viable suitor?  IN A WEEK OR TWO?  That defies logic even to a 3rd grader!

Another important key:  if they wanna make time – they will.  Pure & simple.  We may not have all the time or the luxury of doing what we want WHEN we want, but you truly offend the intelligence of a smart person when you flat out say “I’m busy”, as though it’s unique and doesn’t apply to 95% of grown adults.  If you’d rather not hang with that certain someone – say that.  It’s always amazing how we tout ourselves as “keeping it real”…..until such time that it’s uncomfortable, or may make for conflict with another party.  It’s one of the templates I’ve based my platform on.

So true Blair!  People make time for what and who they want to make time for.

What’s your ideal date? 

1150350_10200865904108153_332576783_nI guess it depend on if it’s a 1st date….or have we been dating for 3-4 months.  I’m a simple guy.  Some dates I’d like to hang with friends.  Others I want total quiet time with whom I’m dating.  I’m the type that if it’s something I’ve seldom/never done…I’m more prone to go do it. I do get out on occasion to a wine event, picnic, dinner/happy hour, etc.

How does one qualify to be “Single Of The Week”? 

Very easily!  First: you must be single.  And by “single”, I mean no attachments whatsoever.  If someone has the potential to “catch feelings” the moment your profile becomes visible – you’re probably not the candidate we’re looking for.  You must be single AND available.  You must also have a backdrop [re: story] that would be of interest to my audience.  From there it becomes, are you aesthetically what we’re seeking.  You don’t have to be a model.  You don’t have to have a 6-pack or a chiseled jawline.  You do, however, need to be what I call “The 7-10 Effect’’.  [Meaning, seven out of ten individuals would be honored to have a date with you – JUST BY HOW YOU LOOK.]  So that means your approach must be executed with a certain strategy on how your photos are presented – as well as what you’re saying.

And take the process for what it is:  the opportunity to meet “Singles” in your city [or another city for that matter.]  More importantly – it is friendly dating, which means it always has the potential to be something even bigger.  And that’s why it’s been so successful thus far!

Any success stories from your Single of the Week? 

Oh definitely!  I’ve actually had to remove a number of the participants from my FB page because they were no longer on the market due to SOTW.  [I know of TWO SEPARATE INSTANCES where individuals actually moved out of state to be with a “Single Of The Week”.]  I don’t really get caught up in the number because with the way relationships are, people can be “in a relationship” today and broke up quickly.  The model of SOTW was built on allowing folks who normally wouldn’t have the opportunity to see certain people to expand their “pool” of viable options.

Exactly HOW you elect to utilize that strategy is entirely up to you.


What are some relationship deal breakers?

It varies from person to person.  Some of the glaring ones are:  boredom, verbal/emotional/physical abuse, excessive weight gain, breach of trust, ongoing disrespect, laziness…to name a few.  The longer you and someone are connected – the less “picky” your list of criteria becomes.  I say that to say….if you don’t like something…make them aware early on, or simply get out the relationship in a dignified manner.

What one piece of advice can you give someone with dating/relationship hang ups? 

Simple.  It never gets any easier.  I speak with many folks who have issue meeting others.  [I’m inboxed often by individuals who like a Single Of The Week – and want me to do a formal intro.  Never have & never will.]

All of us are adults.  At some juncture the training wheels must come off.  You’re 30, 35, sometimes 40+ years old…stuck in quicksand….nervous about how do you approach someone you may have interest in.

I’m here to tell you:  it’s never easy.  We all have hangups in some form/fashion.  There’s no “secret formula” that makes the situation go smooth.  There is, however, a way to go about doing it.  It’s called JUMPING IN FEET FIRST.

Why do you think the divorce rate is so high?    Where do I begin???  LOL

– First off, I think people enter marriage with one foot already out the door.  A number of married folks – men & women alike – still take applications soliciting “part-time help from other people”, if you know what I mean.  Obviously that’s a huge no-no.

– Another issue is we’ve left scriptural teachings far in the distance.  There’s a saying: you can know the Bible and not know Jesus. We tend to operate marriage “cowboy-style”, then want to bring God in as though he’s a “roadside assistance guy” – only to be used when the situation is very critical.

– Often in marriage, mates aren’t genuinely looking for a good man/woman.  They’re chasing illusions that really aren’t that authentic and they end up disappointed in the process.  People tend to operate from a “passive aggressive scorecard”….looking at all the things their mate falls short in.

– Also, people mistake marriage for control.  If you become agitated when your mate talks, calls, texts, hangs out, or breathes in the general vicinity of another person and you proceed to take that anger out on your husband/wife – in essence you are attempting to control their behavior.

– In addition, I think folks come into a union with a level of baggage that’s unfair.  Whatever pain you have in your heart & soul is going to fester & hurt until it’s healed.  No one is 100% when you enter a marriage…but if there’s an inordinate level of stress/pressure on one individual…it could cause significant problems early.

– Lastly [and this one may sting a little]:  some people may not be as great of a wife/husband as they think.  MAYBE, just maybe your S/O had limited options.  And that’s a very tough pill to swallow.

End it by saying this:  life is like a deck of cards.  Only difference is…..there’s no luck.  You gotta put in work first – simply to get a good hand!

Yeah, that last one stung a little. LOL.  Everyone swear they’re wifey/hubby material just because they got a ring.  I know many of married folks I wouldn’t take advice on how to tie my shoe let alone relationship advice. 

So what’s next up for you?

Truly excited for what’s ahead! I have my next relationship panel/symposium coming in August. That’s also when my book will be released.  With my book, I’m on a mission to make marriage & relationships sexy again 10428845_10204129444539928_360060621_nwithin the black community. It takes to task sisters AND brothers as it relates to distasteful behaviors. 

My website is coming soon so be on the lookout for that towards the end of July [www.blairnashspeaks.com]. It’ll be a continuation of pretty much what I do on Facebook – without the filters.

I’ll also be starting a YouTube series in the summer/fall titled, “More Than Just Our Voices”.  The segment speaks directly to the ‘voice’ of our sisters – chronicling some of the challenges they suffer daily from toxic relationships, incest, homosexuality, neglect from their father and more. My goal is to share a compilation of stories that will inspire sisters from all backgrounds/walks of life.  

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Well there you have it!  Our resident relationship enthusiast has spoken.  Stay tuned as we debut our first Single of the Week on July 21st!  If you’re interested in being a SOTW, please email Blair at singleoftheweek@culsire.com.

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AnjieBlack

Daughter of dissent. Co-Founder @ Black Girls Rising. Chief Operations Officer @ CulSire. Virtual Assistant. I love good food, a good book, and an unapologetic Black man.

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8 thoughts on “Blair Nash Presents ‘Single of the Week’ Comes to CulSire!”

  • Angie Perdue-Kemper

    June 20, 2014 , 6:12 pm

    Great read and spot on. Congratulation

  • Angie Perdue-Kemper

    June 20, 2014 , 6:12 pm

    Great read and spot on. Congratulation

  • Cassandra Powell

    June 21, 2014 , 2:19 am

    Love it, congrats Blair!

  • Cassandra Powell

    June 21, 2014 , 2:19 am

    Love it, congrats Blair!

  • Rita Richardson Jackson

    June 21, 2014 , 4:04 am

    Congratulations Blair Nash (Y).

  • Rita Richardson Jackson

    June 21, 2014 , 4:04 am

    Congratulations Blair Nash (Y).

  • LaNée Javet

    July 1, 2014 , 6:31 am

    Very excited about this addition!

  • LaNée Javet

    July 1, 2014 , 6:31 am

    Very excited about this addition!

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